Years later, unable to forgive ourselves, we live in a state of perpetual blame and guilt. It's time to stop blaming yourself for negative decisions and actions you've made in the past.
Whether you didn't spend enough time with your children, didn't love your parents enough... forgive yourself, learn from it, and move on.
If you've genuinely asked for the forgiveness of others (and you'd be wise to do so); yet they continue to hold your actions against you, you are no longer responsible for facilitating their forgiveness.
This does not mean you resent those individuals who are not willing to forgive you. They may not be ready to do so and perhaps they never will.
Unawareness (or unconsciousness) of how your actions might affect others can cause you to think and act in ways that do not promote positive outcomes. (For more on consciousness, I HIGHLY recommend the book A New Earth.)
For example, you might have been unaware that spending more time at the office, instead of with your children, caused them to feel neglected and abandoned.
To paraphrase the wise Maya Angelou, now that you know better, you DO BETTER.
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